My Independence May Change, but Not Go Away
I’m spending a couple days on the road right now, sharing some of my story and philosophies at a fundraiser. This is the first in-person event I’ve participated in since friends at Amicus Therapeutics invited me and my podcast co-host, Kyle Bryant, to their office in February 2020.
I’m here on behalf of the small nonprofit, Nebraska Ataxia, which aims to support families with limited resources and are dealing with Friedreich’s ataxia (FA) get help with medical expenses, physical therapy or exercise, or acquire assistive equipment.
Over dinner tonight, one of the organizers and I started talking about the stages of our disease progression, our assistive devices, and the different ways we benefit from the help of others.
Asking for help
A common thread in our conversation was how life is made better by others, and it was apparent to me that we are both grateful for the people around us. Although our disability may push us toward a strong desire for independence, I know that independence doesn’t have to mean not asking for help, or that I do everything on my own. In fact, I’d argue that nobody can do everything on their own all the time. We all need others to one degree or another.
There are different degrees of disability, of course, and different people will face their own set of limitations. My brother suffered a spinal cord injury last year at the age of 41 and has a completely different level of need than I do at this stage of life.
Although my brother currently leans on around-the-clock care in a rehab facility, he has the power to think independently and the freedom to choose his perspective and attitude. Some days are certainly harder than others, but his physical limitations are just one element of life for him right now.
Help from another person can come in the form of sharing a laugh or an embarrassing story over a drink, talking with a counselor or a mentor, or opening up to a loved one. We all benefit when we let others step in and help. After all, even able-bodied, world-class athletes rely on the help of coaches and teammates for their athletic success.
As my disease progresses and my abilities change I know I will have to redefine what my independence means. I want to be careful that I don’t mistake asking for help with no longer being independent.
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