My Darling Disability - a Column by Kendall Harvey

letter, conserving energy, independence, mobility aid, love, realist, normal, uncharted waters, intentional, Mother's Day, obstacle, moments, social media, walker, emotions, friends Kendall is a wife and mother of two navigating life with Friedreich's ataxia in Austin, Texas. She worked in marketing before "retiring" and becoming a stay-at-home-mom. She is an optimistic warrior fighting for a better future free of FA. She uses her column to help others process both the visible and invisible struggles that come with rare disease and disability.

The value in seeing each problem as an opportunity

It’s been a wild and busy season for my family. Springtime in my household is usually eventful because it’s filled with things that we all enjoy, and most days, I wouldn’t have it any other way. From January through May, our calendar is typically chock-full of youth sports such as…

With Friedreich’s ataxia, it’s always something

As we navigate life, I think we’ve all felt, said, or at least heard the common saying “It’s always something.” I find myself saying that as a somewhat sarcastic self-challenge, meaning I still need to find a way to move forward, despite whatever new “something” there is to overcome.

Being called a warrior when I feel like anything but

There’s a lot that comes with the territory of having a visible disability, especially if you choose to live your life out loud rather than hide. I never imagined I’d have to make that choice until I was diagnosed with Friedreich’s ataxia (FA) in 2013. Back then, I understood…

The lifetime evolution of my definition of strength

What pops into your mind when you hear the word “strength”? I’m guessing that your answer will be based on the people around you. Anyone who was a child in the 1980s and ’90s will likely think about the Arnold Schwarzeneggers, Hulk Hogans, and Tom Cruises who filled the movies…

How people of different ages tend to react to my mobility aids

As my battle with Friedreich’s ataxia (FA) and my progressively diminishing physical abilities — primarily balance, coordination, dexterity, and energy — wages on relentlessly, I’m forced to adapt. While I’m used to depending on mobility aids, as I’ve done since February 2019, I often notice the reactions of others…