My Darling Disability - a Column by Kendall Harvey

letter, conserving energy, independence, mobility aid, love, realist, normal, uncharted waters, intentional, Mother's Day, obstacle, moments, social media, walker, emotions, friends Kendall is a wife and mother of two navigating life with Friedreich's ataxia in Austin, Texas. She worked in marketing before "retiring" and becoming a stay-at-home-mom. She is an optimistic warrior fighting for a better future free of FA. She uses her column to help others process both the visible and invisible struggles that come with rare disease and disability.

Calming the Friedreich’s Ataxia Storm

Lately, I have been falling into a funk easily. All of the “little things” that bother me about life as a Friedreich’s ataxia (FA) patient seemed insurmountably huge and sucked all of my drive away. I didn’t feel joyful or enthused about much of anything except sleeping. So, I…

Acknowledging My Disability Is Empowering

I was diagnosed with Friedreich’s ataxia (FA) in 2013. At that point, I was still pretty “normal.” I could still do almost everything except walk in high heels or perform well in sports. I was independent and capable. After seven years of symptom progression, I am now disabled. I am…

I’m Thankful for So Much, Even With Friedreich’s Ataxia

2020 has been a wild year. Thanks to the pandemic, growing civil unrest, and a tumultuous and pivotal presidential election, we are all leading a life we didn’t anticipate or plan for. Add in a progressively degenerative disease like Friedreich’s ataxia (FA), which doesn’t pause to consider any external…

Friedreich’s Ataxia Has Taught Me a Lot

Before I was diagnosed in 2013, I had never even heard of Friedreich’s ataxia. I learned a lot during the diagnostic process as we assessed the viability of possible diagnoses to rule out. For example, I never knew there was such a thing as gluten ataxia, but I…

The Importance of Being Your Own Advocate

When it comes to your health and future, you are your own best advocate. Only you know what you are feeling, so only you know what is or isn’t “normal” for you. When I was 23, I began noticing that my balance was different than it used to be. I…

After Quarantine, I Am ‘the Disabled Mom’ Again

Given all of the uncertainty and unpredictability in the world, it is fairly safe to say that nearly everyone has had moments of frustration, fear, and disappointment. Life in Texas is getting back to normal, and our routines are crazy. We went from being quarantined in our house for over…